A guy asked me how to pick up women if you’re average-looking. This is my message to him and other plain-looking guys.
Hey, it’s Ciaran.
I just got this message from a follower:
“Hello Ciaran, about your latest post; your profile/attitude and more specifically your own physical aspects are outstanding.
“As such, it becomes hard to distinguish how much is it due to your social skills vs the plain facts that most of those women would have slept with you, even if you didn’t have social skills.”
The guy went to ask me to make a profile of an average-looking dude and show how this guy would lead interactions.
So, here’s my advice for this man and other average-looking dudes.
1. Women don’t want an average man
They just don’t, they want tip of the spear guys (especially pretty women).
An ‘average’ man will get right swiped less than 1% of the time on Tinder.
You either need to become one of those men or figure out how to look like one, in order to get their interest.
Guys shouldn’t how to get hot women by being average. They should ask how to level themselves up in every way possible. Looks, body, clothes, money, lifestyle, whatever.
2. Above-average men still need social skills
I’ve coached plenty of good-looking men who still couldn’t attract women.
The main thing that attracts women to you is your PERSONALITY.
Good looks open the door. If you don’t have a personality to back it up, that door closes very quickly.
I’ve never not needed social skills to attract a woman.
3. You can get a better physique
I wasn’t born with the physique I have, I built it in the gym and so can you.
I mastered social skills in the field and so can you.
You just think you can’t because of your own limiting beliefs but you totally can.
4. Having an attractive profile isn’t just about being good-looking
Of course, it helps massively. But if your pics show an attractive lifestyle and are high-quality, you’ll be among the top male profiles on any dating site.
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