Mega List Of Openers & Pickup Lines
When announcing the creation of this mega list of openers, one nerd on Reddit said: ‘This is stupid. You don’t need a million openers. You just need one or two. Memorizing long lists of openers doesn’t work.’
To which I replied:
‘Have you ever been to a restaurant before and ordered every single item on the fucking menu?’
No. Shut the fuck up, bitch boy.
Dating coaches generally agree that the opener doesn’t matter. It’s not what you say, but how you say it. There is no ‘perfect opener’, and you obviously don’t need endless amounts of them. But we put together this mega list of openers to fuel your pimpspiration for game anyway.
And no fat boy on Reddit can tell me otherwise.
What Is An Opener?
An opener is a statement, question or story used to initiate a conversation with people you haven’t talked to before. Openers come in many forms, such as:
- Spontaneous Openers: Unique and naturally made in the moment.
- Observational Openers: Based on an observation.
- Canned Openers: Memorized and pre-made.
- Situational Openers: Based on context or the surrounding environment.
- Opinion Openers: Asking for an opinion.
- Compliment Openers: Giving a compliment.
- Direct Openers: Expressing interest.
- Indirect Openers: Not expressing interest.
Some openers are best used under one subset of game, generally:
- Primary Game: Game in the physical world; day game or night game.
- Secondary Game: Game in the virtual world; message game.
To make it easier for the different types of gamers out there, our list of openers is divided into these categories:
- Day Game Openers
- Night Game Openers
- Message Game Openers
Day Game Openers
The Girlfriend Shoes Opener
My girlfriend would love those shoes. Where did you get them?
Context: Situational opener for when a girl genuinely has amazing shoes, especially unique shoes with good style or closed-toe platform high heels that are 8 inches or higher, which can be followed by showing a photo of your girlfriend wearing some cool shoes. Opener created by Ice White.
The Aisle Opener
What brings you out to the [avocado] aisle?! Making something special tonight?
Context: Observational opener for when a girl is shopping for groceries.
The Food Court Opener
Which restaurant should I get food from?
Context: Situational opinion opener for when a girl is in the food court of a mall.
The Green Light Opener
Hey, are you waiting for the green light?
Context: Situational opener for when a girl is at a crosswalk waiting for a green light to cross the street.
The Day Opener
How’s your day going?
Context: Casual innocent opener you can ask anyone, allowing you to lead a conversation based on her response.
The Languages Opener
How many languages can you speak?
Context: Casual innocent opener you can ask anyone, which can quickly reveal a lot of information about the girl’s culture, ancestry, travels and passions, leading to many possibilities of where you can take the conversation. You can even guess which languages she speaks. Opener created by Alex James.
The Jealous Girlfriend Opener
Hey, I need a female opinion on something. Would you date a guy who was still friends with his ex-girlfriend?
Context: Opinion opener mentioned in The Game which was used on Paris Hilton by Nick Kho (RSD Papa), followed by a story about a friend’s girlfriend burning the photos of the ex-girlfriend. Opener created by Neil Strauss (Style).
The Who Are You Opener
Excuse me, who are you?
Context: Simple opener coming from a place of assumed authority, with a frame of curiosity and intent. Opener created by Alex James.
The Valentine’s Day Opener
What are you doing on Valentine’s Day?
Context: Opener with romantic implications, that can also be used to challenge her in regards to why she may be single or not have a date.
The Dad Wants Me To Get Married Opener
Hello. My dad wants me to get married, can I talk to you?
Context: Playful opener with low effort that still comes from a dating frame. If rejected, you can simply tell her that it was worth the shot. Opener created by Alex James.
The New Year’s Resolution Opener
Have you fulfilled your New Year’s resolution?
Context: Opener directed at a girl’s beliefs, goals, ambitions and dreams. Opener created by Alex James.
The Gym Music Opener
What kind of music do you listen to while working out?
Context: Subtle, friendly and indirect situational opener that can be used at the gym. The opener can be used in other contexts by replacing the part about working out with other things, such as riding the train or driving to work.
The Gym Thoughts Opener
What you think about when you’re working out?
Context: Can be complemented by adding about how other people might be thinking about certain things, like how they are going to become a millionaire or how they are going to get a great body ready for Summer. Opener created by Erik Von Markovik (Mystery).
The Modeling Agency Opener
Hi there, I’m just waiting around to be scouted by a modeling agency. What’s your name?
Context: Absurd self-aggrandizing opener, inviting tests and banter, which can lead into a conversation about fashion. You can also use it to roleplay with her about how she could support you in your modeling career. Opener created by Alex James.
The Love Life Opener
How’s your love life?
Context: Friendly opener that can be used with friends and coworkers, first used in a coworker environment. Can be used to identify if a girl is single or is having relationship issues, such as trouble with her boyfriend, and can also inspire her being open and honest if she is seeing someone, dating or just having a casual relationship. Opener created by Ice White.
Night Game Openers
The Apocalypse Opener
Would you like to come home with me?
Context: Very direct and risky opener that can be used as a last resort, which must be used with confidence.
The Saw You From Over There Opener
Hi, I saw you from over there and had to come over and meet you. My name is [name].
The Picking Up Chicks Opener
Hi, I’m picking up chicks tonight.
Context: Humorous opener that opens up about what your agenda is, and can be used to search for a wingwoman.
The Belly Opener
What’s in your belly?
Context: Opener for pointing at a girl’s belly and asking her what’s inside, following with a question asking what she has eaten or what she drank. If she said that she ate a taco, tell her you will call her ‘Taco’ for the night, and start introducing people to her as ‘Taco’. Opener created by Erik Von Markovik (Mystery).
The Single Opener
Who’s single?
Context: Situational opener for when there is a group of girls.
The Buying Drinks Opener
Are guys buying you drinks or are you scaring them away?
Context: Playful opener that can test whether a girl is open to the idea of having drinks with a stranger. Opener created by Alex James.
The Snapple Cap Fun Facts Opener
Did you know that fish cough? Fish… Cough. Who knew?! I learned that on the back of a Snapple cap. You know that Snapple cap fun facts aren’t actually all true? You’re supposed to go to their website and find out which fun facts are real and which aren’t. So now I don’t know… Do fish cough?! Who knows?
Context: Opener created by Erik Von Markovik (Mystery).
The Who Lies More Opener
Who lies more, men or women?
Context: Opinion opener mentioned in the book The Game, used by coaches of Real Social Dynamics.
The Wingwoman Wedding Opener
You’re beautiful, wanna come to our wedding?
Context: Situational compliment opener for when you have a wingwoman or girlfriend with you, and another girl you would like to meet.
The Henry VIII Opener
So what’s your deal? Divorced? Married? Died?
Context: Humorous opener that attempts to extract the information about whether or not she is single, referencing some of the wives of Henry VIII, who were executed, divorced or died naturally.
The Bisexual Girl Opener
Can a straight guy date a bisexual girl?
Context: Opinion opener that has the chance of revealing bisexual girls.
The OnlyFans Celebration Opener
We’re celebrating, I just hit the top 10% of creators on OnlyFans!
Context: Playful self-aggrandizing opener with a sexual innuendo, inviting tests, banter or general curiosity. Opener created by Alex James.
The All Girls Are Bisexual Opener
All girls are bisexual, agree or disagree.
Context: Opinion opener for when you want to identify a girl’s sense of sexuality.
The Guessing Birthplace Opener
Are you from [Peru]? Me and my friend were making a bet.
Context: Opener for guessing where a girl is from, which is best used by guys who are well traveled.
The Guess Where Opener
Guess where I am from.
The Guess Age Opener
Guess how old I am.
The High Five Hug Opener
High five hug.
Context: Opener for physically greeting people by putting up your hand as if you were going to high five, but gently putting your palm against hers and wrapping your thumb around the side of her hand, prompting her to do the same so that your hands are effectively hugging. Opener created by Ice White.
The Hot Girls Opener
Do you know where the hot girls are?
The Celebrating Opener
What are we celebrating tonight?!
Context: Putting your arms out like Jesus on the cross, asking girls what they are celebrating while they are partying or drinking.
The Kamikaze Opener
You are fucking beautiful.
Context: Direct opener which is can be better for guys with non-local accents. Opener created by JT Tran.
The Kickstarter Opener
Cheers!
Context: Indirect opener for when you have a drink in your hand, even if it’s just water. You can then introduce yourself if she responds back, and tell her you are celebrating something, inviting her to come by and say hello again later. Opener created by JT Tran.
The Kiss The Ring Opener
Kiss the ring.
Context: Obnoxious opener for when you are wearing a unique or large ring, expecting girls to kiss it and serve your interests. Often ineffective, but can work on occasion.
The After Party Opener
After party.
Context: Short opener you can say to individual girls or yell out repeatedly to groups around you when leaving a nightclub or party with the intent of going back to your place for a smaller but more intimate party, thus bringing the party home.
The Food Opener
Food.
Context: Short opener you can use while pointing at people, effortlessly inviting random people to eat with you at an absurd time at night or in the early hours of the morning when leaving a nightclub or party.
The Black Opener
Hi, I’m black.
Context: Humorous opener African guys can use.
The Team Opener
Team [Canada].
Context: Observational opener for when you recognize that a girl is from your country, or on the same team in any other sense, such as a mutual sports team based on her clothing, or a mutual passion in something. Can also become an inside joke. Opener created by Ice White.
The Shy Opener
I’m shy.
Context: Ironic short opener, which in actuality means you are not shy if you approached her and said it with confidence. Opener created by Ice White.
The Wingwoman Wife Opener
Do you wanna be my wife for the night? You can yell at me for an hour and then we can be romantic after.
Context: Humorous opener used with the intent to treat each other with a certain vibe.
The Fiancée Opener
Do you wanna hop to random bars with me and yell out that we just got engaged so people buy us drinks all night?
Context: Humorous opener used on individual girls, with an exciting idea to prompt her to roleplay with you in a spontaneous date where you pretend you are already in a relationship with each other to fool other people into buying drinks for both of you. Opener created by Ice White.
The Lady Harassing Guy Opener
Excuse me, sir. Is this lady harassing you?
Context: Humorous observational opener directed for when a girl is talking passionately or loudly with a guy. This opener is directed to the guy who is with the girl, but gets the attention of both.
The Woman Molesting Guy Opener
Is this woman molesting you?
Context: Humorous observational opener for when a girl is displaying affection with a guy publicly, often her boyfriend. This opener is directed to the guy who is with the girl, but gets the attention of both.
The Attracted To One Of You Opener
I know this is totally random but I’m attracted to one of you.
Context: Opener used in a group of girls, making them question which one you are attracted to.
The Spice Up Opener
What would you do if you wanted to spice up your sex life?
Context: Opinion opener that can be complemented with a story about a friend who wants to spice up their love life or marriage.
The Jesus Opener
I am Jesus.
Context: Humorous opener when you have long hair or a long beard, or just look like Jesus, or are cosplaying as Jesus for Halloween.
The Piggyback Opener
Piggyback.
Context: Fun opener prompting a girl to jump on your back and ride you as you get into the piggyback carrying position by squatting on the floor and holding your arms out backwards. Opener created by Ice White.
The Brave Opener
On a scale of 1 to 10, how brave do you feel right now?
The Age Opener
How old are you?
The Party’s Over Here Opener
Hey, it looks like the party’s over here.
Context: Situational opener mentioned in The Game, for when there is a group of girls in a party of nightclub, which can be followed by turning to the girl you’re attracted to and telling her she would be yours if you weren’t gay. Opener created by Erik Von Markovik (Mystery).
Message Game Openers
The Spontaneous Line
Let’s skip all the bullshit. How spontaneous are you?
Context: Famous message game opener from Message Game Guide, designed to screen a girl on Tinder to see how receptive she is to the idea of spontaneity. Opener created by Ice White.
The Adventurous Line
Let’s skip all the bullshit. How adventurous are you?
Context: Message game opener from the book The Message Game, using the idea of adventure instead of spontaneity for higher receptiveness. Often leads girls to reveal how adventurous they are, thus helping you pick a fun date idea based on her adventure level, making it more likely to lead to sex by focusing on genuine fun. Opener created by Ice White.
The 3 Things Line
What are 3 things you would love to do for a first date, no matter how crazy?
Context: Message game opener which can also be used to reframe messaging interactions. Prompts her to reveal what kinds of dates she would love to have, thus exposing her dating blueprint and making it easier for you to give her the best date she has ever had by literally going on her ideal first date. Opener created by Ice White.
The Hot First Date Line
Why aren’t you my hot first date for tonight?
Context: Message game opener that led to Joe Elvin getting a girlfriend. Opener created by Joe Elvin.
The Hey Trouble Line
Hey, trouble.
Context: Famous Playing With Fire message game opener. Opener created by Alex Vilenchik.
The Hoodie Line
Wanna steal my comfiest hoodie?
Context: Opener created by Alex Vilenchik.
The Delete The App Line
I’m the one, you can delete the app now.
Context: Opener created by Alex Vilenchik.
The My Type Line
You seem like my type.
Context: Opener created by Alex Vilenchik.
The Crayons Line
My 3rd grade’s crush was named [Lizzie]. I used to pull her hair and steal her crayons.
Context: Humorous Tinder opener that can inspire her to reveal that she likes her hair being pulled, helping set a sexual frame in a subtle way. Her name needs to be used in the opener in order for it to make sense.
The Dating Now Line
So, I guess we’re dating now?
The Can I Be Honest Line
Can I be honest?
The Future Lover Line
Hey, future lover.
The Whole Foods Line
I’m at Whole Foods. Want me to pick you up something?
The Interesting Line
Tell me something interesting about you that’s not in your profile.
The Passion Line
What’s one thing you’re passionate about that you wish more people would ask you about?
The Totally Random Line
I’m curious, what’s something totally random but awesome about you?
The Exciting Thing Line
What’s the most exciting thing you’ve got planned this week?
The Apocalypse Line
Hey, I know this is kinda weird and pushy haha, but would you like to have sex with me? I’m not a creep or a pervert, just a genuine guy. I would treat you with respect and the sex would be good. I can even make you squirt if the connection is right haha. I will not judge you or think you’re “easy”. So yeah, excuse me if I come across as a little uncalibrated but I think you’re attractive, so what do you think? 🙂 Haha
Context: Controversial message game opener associated with Real Social Dynamics, intended as a last resort line with lots of risk. Not to be confused with the original night game opener called ‘The Apocalypse Opener’. Opener created by Maximilian Berger (RSD Max).
Logistical Questions
Who are you here with?
Context: Determines who she is with, so you are aware of anything that could make it harder for you to pull her, such as if she doesn’t want to abandon the friends she is with in the nightclub.
What are you doing after?
Context: Determines if she has any pre-existing plans, so you are aware of anything that could make it harder for you to pull her, such as if she has to get up early to work in the morning.
Where are you staying?
Context: Determines if she is staying close by or far away, so you are aware of anything that could make it harder for you to pull her.
Other Pickup Lines
We’re not gonna do anything you’re not comfortable with.
Context: Line used for comfort, to communicate to a girl that she is safe with you and that there is no pressure in doing anything she doesn’t want to do.
Shh, little one. Don’t get cocky.
Context: Line created by Owen Cook (RSD Tyler).
Fake tits and real assholes.
Context: Line describing the people of Los Angeles. Line created by Jeff Allen (RSD Jeffy).
You are really not hot enough to get away with being this boring.
Uh, my attraction for you just went down.
You definitely just earned some much needed brownie points.
Imagine a far away place where people value your opinion. Now go there.
Context: Quote from the movie The Judge.
Tell me what you think about me.
No matter what happens, we will always be friends at the very least.
Context: Line to use for comfort when setting the frame with a girl that you can have sex and still be friends, and that you are not risking the friendship by having sex. Designed to be a two-way promise to each other. Line created by Ice White.
Bestie intitiation.
Context: Line to use after setting a friend frame, whereby you and a girl promise each other that no matter what happens, you will always be friends at the very least, even if you got into a sexual relationship with each other or had a relationship and broke up. The idea is to initiate the agreement by kissing, as friends. Line created by Ice White.
I wanna marry you, and divorce you. And take half your money. And we can have make up sex behind the scenes.
What do I get?
Context: Line for when a girl wants something from you or is very demanding.
I’m gonna put a baby in you and then escape.
I just turned 15.
Context: Humorous line that makes less sense the older you are, but is intended in a night game environment where you are obviously not 15 and are just being playful and sarcastic.
I’m a virgin.
Context: Humorous line with sarcasm, unless you really are a virgin.
What’s my name?
Context: Line inspired by the Walter White (Heisenberg) character in Breaking Bad, where he sets a dominant frame.
Short but intense romance.
Does that mean I have to go back to my girlfriend tonight?
Context: Humorous line used when rejected by a girl in a night game environment.
More Openers!
We would love to keep this list expanding! Send your openers in a post on Skool at Skool.com/game-global and we will add the best ones to this list.
