Learn to speak endlessly with these tips…
Hey, it’s Ciaran.
Here are my top 5 tips to stop you from EVER running out of things to say to a woman.
1. Drop your standards for what’s “good enough” to say
This is #1, because NOT doing this is the main reason why guys run out of things to say to women.
You never run out of things to say to family and friends, because you KNOW they like you, so you don’t set these standards.
Yet, with a beautiful woman who you’re trying to impress, nothing seems good enough and you freeze up.
I urge you to realise that your vibe is the most important thing. Some 93% of communication is non-verbal. If you’re feeling good and having fun, she’ll feel good and have fun! At that point, anything you say will be ‘good enough’.
This is honestly the only tip you need. But, I’ve also added some more practical conversational tips below.
2. Make observations
Observe your surroundings and give your opinion on them.
If you’re at the bar, there’s potentially the dancefloor, the music, the crazy shit on the walls, some super-strong cocktail being left unattended. Throw out an opinion!
Your surroundings are potentially endless especially if you’re moving, so you’re unlikely to ‘run out’.
3. Move the conversation to past or future tense
When you keep a conversation in the present tense, it’s seconds away from dying.
Move it to the past or future and it can live on endlessly.
Let’s say you’re still staring at that unique and potent cocktail…
To move to the past tense, you can ponder on who invented the cocktail, why they invented it, how crazy and depressed they must have been…
For future tense, you can predict what would happen if someone downed it one, and then what, and then what.
This takes some improvisational skills, but it allows the conversation to live on endlessly, because the past and future are endless.
4. Screen her
Make yourself a list of five personality traits your ideal girlfriend would have, then start a conversation to see if this woman has them.
5. Get to the point
Smalltalk and ‘getting to know each other’ is fine. But, as the man, it’s your job to lead the interaction where you want it to go.
So, if you’re still running out of things to say in spite of these first four tips, make a point of suggesting what you two should do next. Always be closing.
I’m overwhelming my coaching clients with practical tips like this on our 1-on-1 calls…
But we’re also relentlessly working on their ‘inner game’ to transform them into that irresistibly attractive guy, without any of the clever conversational tricks.
There are still some spots left for FREE coaching calls with me in April.
So, if you’d like to discuss whatever is holding you back with beautiful women, click here to choose the best time for me to call you.
Do it now before they’re all taken.