Wondering how to go out alone, have an awesome time and meet a great woman? This is your 3-step guide to enjoying fun solo nights out.
We imagine you’ve experienced the dilemma of wanting to go out and have fun, but having no friends available to join you.
Few people decide to roll solo in this situation. Many guys are too worried about coming across as a creepy, predatory loner. Maybe you think it’s impossible to have fun without a friend standing next to you.
Whatever your fears are, they’re almost definitely an illusion. Going out alone is as cool as you decide it is.
Joe has been travelling the world solo for almost two years. He loves a solo night out. In fact, he’s met some of his favourite people from around the world this way.
This guide explains how to erase your fears of solo nights out, enjoy yourself, make friends and maybe even take a beautiful woman home.
How To Go Alone: Your Step-By-Step Guide
Step 1. Be social all day
If you spend the entire day without talking to people, it’s likely you’ll arrive on your solo night out feeling stifled and anti-social.
After all, socialising and logical working involve different parts of the brain. It’s difficult to shift between the two.
The antidote is to make smalltalk with anyone who crosses your path. If you’re not lucky enough to have a social workplace, consider running daygame during your lunch break. Make an effort to chat with the cashiers, waiting staff or Uber drivers who serve you throughout the day. Call a friend on the phone. Anything that keeps the social side of your brain active will help you in the bar that evening.
This is especially important when you’re on your way to a bar or a club. Make a point to speak with people on the way to the venue and in the queue. Befriend the bouncer, the cloakroom workers and the bar staff. It’ll do a lot to get you out of your shell.
Once you’re inside, start talking to people as soon as possible. The longer you wait to start socialising, the harder you’ll find it.
Step 2. Find a ‘home base’
This is the secret that makes it so easy to feel comfortable on a solo night out.
A ‘home base’ is a group of people who like you and accept you. It doesn’t have to be anyone remotely cool. The only criteria is that they don’t mind you hanging out with them.
Approach people and focus on being friendly, just like you did during The Happy Hour Challenge. No flirting. No edgy opinions that’ll piss them off. Provided you have a decent base level of charisma, they’ll probably be pleased that a cool guy tried to befriend them. Don’t be surprised if they buy you drinks or make a concerted effort to get to know you. Now, you have a group of people to hang out with…
You don’t need to stay with your home base, but they’re always there if you’re feeling self-conscious about being alone.
Step 3. Give positive energy
From here, you can treat the evening like any other night out.
The easiest trap to fall into on solo nights out is becoming too desperate to be accepted by other groups. Trying to leech off other people’s fun is the best way to turn them off. Instead, focus on self-amusement and making other people’s nights better with your presence. Do this well and you’ll be welcomed by the majority of the people you speak to.
Give it a try tonight (or this weekend if you live in a small town with no weekday nightlife).
With these tips in your arsenal, it’ll definitely be more fun than staying at home.
Bonus Tip 1. Some events are designed for singletons
Most big cities host a ton of social events designed for those looking to meet new people. Language exchanges, dance classes, speed dating, singles nights. You’re unlikely to meet many hotties there, but they’re a good warm-up if you’ve never been out alone before.
These events tend to start and finish relatively early in the evening, so you could drop by before hitting the bars. Any women you do meet are likely to be more responsive than the bottle rats at the club. If nothing else, they’ll help shift you into a social mood.
Check out Facebook Events or Meetup.com for a list of events in your local area.
Bonus Tip 2. Getting in the venue
Some nightclubs have a policy against solo guys being allowed in the club. However, there are plenty of ways to be made an exception.
- Getting there early. When the club is empty, the door staff tend to be more lenient.
- Befriending the bouncers. The first time they let you in the venue, have a small chat and offer to buy them a soft drink. They’ll remember this gesture the next time you roll up to the club on your own.
- Dressing well. If you dress like an important guy who’s ready to spend a lot of money, you’ll be more likely to get in. It’ll also improve women’s perception of you.
If you’re not interested in doing any of this, there are probably plenty of dive bars or tourist hangouts that will still let you in.
Check out our Sexual Escalation Chapter for detailed guides on how to pull from a bar or nightclub.
The Sexual Escalation chapter of Game Academy is packed with detailed reports of how the Game Global coaches were able to pull a woman from a solo night out.
This chapter can only be accessed by Game Academy VIP members.