Girls aren’t like guys. We’re blatant and direct, but they’re very indirect and subtle and that’s expressed to the n’th degree when it comes to dating. When they’re into us they’ll rarely be upfront about it because it’s just not how they operate, so what they will do is drop tiny hints that they expect us to pick up on but we usually don’t.
Here I’m gonna give you a list of 12 things to look out for so you don’t have to be one of those hapless dudes anymore. Enjoy!
1. She stands much closer to you than she has to
This one’s probably gonna rock your world but it’s still very fucking true. If a girl is either neutral to your or thinks you’re disgusting she’s most likely gonna keep a professional distance from you whether she knows you or not. So, if she’s actively decided to stand very close to you then there’s a reason for it.
Let’s say you’re in a bar or club that isn’t absolutely jam packed and there’s a girl right next to you, then ask yourself why that is. She could be standing anywhere else right now but she’s choosing to invade your airspace so why the hell is that? Well it’s because she most likely thinks you’re hot and is hoping that you’ll have the courage to talk to her. And if you think this is bs then realise that it isn’t, this is a direct tactic that women use to encourage men they like to interact with them. They orbit you and hope you’ll notice them.
But anyway, let’s say you’re chatting in a group of friends and one of them is standing closer to you than anyone else and positioning her body in your direction. Well if that happens then she probably likes you, bro. She likes you, wants to be close to you and is hoping that you’ll realise it and do something about it. Remember that most girls don’t even think they’re allowed to be direct with guys they like. They literally think it’s a social no-no so this is the sort of subtle thing they’ll do to get your attention.
2. She laughs at your jokes
This one is tried and true but it’s still worth mentioning. If a girl goes out of her way to let you know that she thinks you’re funny then that’s a massive indicator of her interest. Girls like to laugh and guys that can make them do that are like gold dust to them. So this means that if she’s constantly laughing at your jokes, or even at times when you’re not trying to be funny then she either genuinely finds you hilarious (which means she probably likes you) or she wants you to think that she thinks you’re hilarious (which means she probably likes you). Either way it’s an excellent sign that you need to have a proper word with her ASAP.
3. She touches you unnecessarily
Ever have a girl stand so close to you that her breasts press against your arm or chest? Or sit so close to you that her legs rub against yours? Or constantly touch you when she’s talking to you? Or playfully hit you when you tell a joke? Ever have girls put their hands on your shoulder to steady themselves when they walk past even though they didn’t actually have to do it? Even though they could have steadied themselves on something else? Any physical contact that a girl initiates unnecessarily is a strong indicator of her interest. The more she goes out of her way to touch you then the more she likes you and it really is that simple. Remember that girls will go to major lengths to not do anything that could make them look like sluts. Being labelled a slut is one of the worst things that can happen to them and because of that they try to avoid it at all costs. So this means that if one chooses to interact with you in a way that could possibly be construed as being even mildly sexual (I.e. light physical contact) then that’s something you really shouldn’t ignore.
4. She watches your stories and likes your posts
Are there girls who watch all your IG, Snapchat or FB stories without fail? Unless they’re your family or close friends then it’s a good sign that they like you or else why on earth would they be keeping up with your exploits? And just so you know, if a girl goes out of her way to like lots of your posts then that’s about as massive a sign as you can get. You might think that if you like a girl’s post that you’re doing just that, liking the post itself, but they don’t really see it that way. They tend to assume that a guy who likes their post is actually liking *them* and that’s why lots of your female friends might not like your updates that often. Assuming that a girl either isn’t into you sexually, or is but doesn’t want to broadcast it, or just doesn’t know you that well, then she usually won’t like your posts even if she follows them closely.
There are exceptions to this though, say if a post is so amazing or funny that it demands a like or if she knows for a fact that she won’t look like she’s dropping you hints by liking it. That’s why girls will often feel more comfortable liking pics of guys with their girlfriends, children, or parents. In those situations they think that liking a post like that won’t imply that they’re into the guy and trying to send him a slutty message.
On a slight tangent, notice that when girls post pics with guys who they’re not in relationships with they’ll usually make a point of letting everyone know he’s just a friend in the post, they’ll say something like ‘Had a great time with my brother from another mother today!’ and that’s because they don’t want anyone to possibly think they’re being a whore. That’s how important it is to them to look a certain way and that’s also why you should take real notice of any interest they outwardly show you.
Anyway my larger point is that if a girl is constantly following your stories or actively liking your posts then that’s a huge sign that she likes you and you need to act on it quickly. I’ve specifically had girls say to me ‘I’ve liked all your pics; how could you not see the signs I was sending you??’
5. She teases you in any way
Remember when you were 7 on the school playground and you’d tease girls you liked by pushing them over or stealing something from them? Well girls still do that as as adults. Let’s say you’re in a club and some girl grabs your hat and runs off with it in a fit of giggles well she’s basically asking you to play with her. She’s literally saying:
‘Hey I think you’re cool and I want you to interact with me so I’m gonna force you to do it by stealing your hat! Please talk to me!
Girls don’t interact with guys they don’t like so remember that!
6. She doesn’t acknowledge you at all
This one’s gonna seem odd considering everything I’ve said so far but it’s still true so here goes. Basically you need to realise that some girls are simply more confident than others and that even though some will have the courage to touch or tease you to get your attention, some will just freeze up like an Eskimo’s ballsack when they’re in your presence. Let’s say you’re in a group of friends and one of them is a girl you don’t know and who isn’t interacting with you in the slightest. Let’s say she won’t look at you, or talk to you at all, and when you ask her questions she responds to someone else instead of to you. If that happens, there’s a damn good chance that she likes you so much that she’s freezing up and doesn’t know what to do. Of course she might actually hate you but realistically unless you’re genuinely an unlikeable asshole that’s probably not the case. Also girls tend to like and trust guys that their friends vouch for so if you have mutual friends there’s no real reason for her to actively dislike you.
7. She glances in your direction
Does she keep looking up at you quickly before going back to whatever she was doing? Well unless you look like you haven’t washed in months then this is a huge sign that she thinks you look delicious.
8. Her feet are pointed towards you
When people are in a group conversation they’ll often angle themselves towards the person they’re either most interested in or attracted to. Let’s say you’re in a group of friends and one of the girls is facing you rather than someone else then that should tell you something about where her interest lies.
9. She mirrors your body language
There’s a subconscious reaction called mirroring that people do when they like someone and it basically means to copy their body language. So here’s how this would look. Imagine you’re having a conversation with a girl and then cross your arms, lean back, rest an elbow on the table, lean forward, and then take a sip of your drink. If the girl you’re with copies all of that then she’s mirroring you and likes you. Now it doesn’t necessarily mean that she’s *into you*, but there’s a damn good chance that she is.
10. She actively tries to keep the conversation going
How many times have you been either talking to a girl in person or through DMs and noticed that you were putting all the effort into keeping the conversation going? That you were the one asking follow up questions and that she was responding to everything you said with either yes or no answers or just closed ended responses that did nothing to further the conversation? Well the truth is that when girls aren’t that interested in talking to you they won’t put any effort into trying to keep things interesting and will let you do all the work.
But, when they’re actively engaging with the conversation, when they ask you follow up questions to keep things moving then that’s because they want to talk to you and it’s a huge indicator of the fact that they’re probably into you.
11. She quickly and consistently replies to your messages
This kinda speaks for itself really. We all know how massively unreliable girls can be when it comes to responding to messages so if there’s one who always replies after you hit her up and quickly too, then she likes you bro.
12. Her friends know who you are
Do her friends say hey whenever they see you, even though they hardly know you? It’s most likely because she’s spoken to them about you at length. A girl might not openly tell a guy that she’s into him but she will tell her squad so if they know who the hell you are and seem to like you too then it’s probably because she’s really into you and has been talking you up massively. Hell, they’ve probably group stalked your social media profiles too.
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