Hey, it’s Ciaran.
Most humans are terrible at making good decisions.
Perhaps you’re one of them…
If you’re unsatisfied with your dating life, it’s only due to a series of bad decisions.
But it’s not your fault.
Your brain tricks you into thinking they’re GOOD.
Still with me? Ok, brilliant.
In this email, I’m going to teach you how to start making good decisions that lead you to the women you want.
First, let’s explore a definition of good decisions, courtesy of dating writer Mark Manson.
He says: “A good decision is risking little for the opportunity to gain a lot”
Makes sense, right?
That means it’s always a good decision to
- approach that hot woman;
- make a move on the date;
- seek guidance if you’re struggling with dating.
But it’s not easy.
Here are three reasons why your brain tricks you into NOT making these good decisions.
1. Emotions vs. Logic.
Humans make decisions based on emotions, not logic.
So, while your logical brain agrees it’s a good idea to say ‘Hi’ to that woman at the train station, your ‘emotional brain’ has other ideas.
It’s yelling: “DON’T DO IT! SHE MIGHT REJECT YOU. SHE MIGHT EMBARRASS YOU. THE WORLD MIGHT END!”
And your intelligent logical brain gets drowned out by the noise.
2. Short-term thinking rules all.
Humans make decisions based on what feels good in the short-term.
It’s more comfortable in the short-term to not approach. You won’t have to experience any anxiety or uncertainty. Your ego remains intact. You get to tell yourself that you totally would have banged her if you wanted to.
But, when you still have no game, crippling approach anxiety and barely any sexual experiences decades later?
Well, that sounds incredibly uncomfortable…
3. Status clouds our thinking
When we perceive someone to be high status, our brain no longer thinks of them as a ‘fellow human’.
Instead, we decide to make bad decisions to impress them.
In the dating world, this could mean supplicating to a woman or putting on a fake persona around her.
It could mean not making a move because you think she’s ‘out of your league’.
So, how can we overcome these mental blocks?
Well, it sure helps to be aware of how your brain tricks you. So, great job on making it this far down the blog post.
I’d also recommend getting in the habit of ignoring your ‘emotional brain’ and consciously making good decisions every day.
I help my private coaching clients do this by setting goals, holding them accountable and offering feedback.
Once they get used to this habit, they begin making good decisions without a handsome black man pushing them to do so ;).
This leads me to one final question.
If I was to offer you a FREE 30-minute coaching session to help you overcome your biggest sticking points with women, would that be a good decision?
The risks are: 30 minutes of your time. Answering some uncomfortable questions about your dating life.
The potential benefits? Overcoming this problem and never being hampered by it for the rest of your life. Sounds like a good deal?