Before we get started I wanna say that this woman is pretty damn close to my ideal in terms of looks & personality, and that’s all down to the profile I’ve created. You need to think like a marketer when creating an online dating profile. Who is the target audience you’re trying to attract, and what do they want to see?
Anyway, she responded to my prompt with “Imagine if on top of this, the woman is also spiritual” so I said “Then that’s a woman I need to buy a ring for.” which is a standard joke I use when it seems like I’m really aligned with a girl.
She qualifies herself by saying she did judo as a kid, and asks how I am.
I said I was intrigued and turned on by her profile which was probably a little too much validation and I wasn’t entirely sure if she’d run with it. But having said that, her interest level was high and I was genuinely turned on so I thought “fuck it”.
I asked how her Thursday was ala my man Alex from Playing With Fire with “How goes thy Thursday” which Seems to be a more interesting way of phrasing that question.
She bit massively and wanted to know what about her turned me on as well as some other things about me. Huge investment from her here.
I quickly glossed over how hot I thought pic number 2 was (gym selfie) because:
I didn’t want to give too much validation too fast.
And I didn’t want to be yet another guy who’s orgasming over how dangerously hot she is.
After that, I told her what I do for a living and did a cold read on her, basically breaking down everything I sensed about her in a person but in a roundabout and interesting way. The French brunette I mentioned with the intellect and sensual side technically could have been anyone, even though it obviously was her.
She didn’t reply for a while so I used my line:
“Divorcing me already?”
Which had her in fits of laughter.
She apologised and said she’d had an intense time since we last spoke. (FYI she expanded
on this when we spoke over the phone. Often when women don’t respond it is because they’re genuinely busy. In the past I’d have written her off as not giving shit but now I know that’s not always the case.
This woman’s obviously a brave one, because We both number closed each other at exactly the same time, like simultaneously. After that, we hopped onto WhatsApp.
On WhatsApp I called myself her Future Ex-husband (a joke that works really well for me)
We playfully sent some memes back and forth (fun vibe) Then I role played about exactly why I’d be her future ex husband.
Now here’s something to remember:
Women aren’t attracted to logic. Even the smartest and most logical career driven woman by day wants to have fun and be swept up in a sea of emotions by night. Logic dries up their vaginas like the Sahara Desert while emotions are like heavy, dense rainfall on said desert.
You don’t get anywhere by engaging them in 2+2=4 conversations and this is a MASSIVE mistake I used to make back in the day. This is why I have my clients do exercises to smash free of their logical minds and learn to be more fun, creative, and silly, and this is also why I told her an elaborate story of the two of us having an intense relationship with passionate sex and children I’d take in the divorce.
Women want fun, not logic.
Anyway we ended up speaking on the phone (massive comfort builder) but to make it low investment on her part I suggested we only have a quick 10 minute chat. Having said that; we ended up talking for an hour on the dot. We were wrapping up the call at 59:35, realised we were hitting the hour mark, and hung on like a couple of OCD rabbits just to hang up exactly at 60:00.
Oh and we agreed to meet up when we’re back in London next week so watch this space.
Cool girl, really looking forward to meeting.